Flourishing Family Model with Manuela Berger from Geneva, Switzerland
Manuela developed this model during her Positive Psychology Masters.
- The principles of this model can be applied to family dynamics as well as any social group of people.
- The model aims to shift momentum and dynamics in a family, for the better.
- Flourishing Family Model (FFM) is a 3 tiered visual model, illustrated using circles.
Inner Circle: beliefs and awareness of these beliefs
- What are the thoughts behind unconscious beliefs?
- Are these thoughts true?
- How do beliefs influence the way we act?
- Becoming aware of thoughts and beliefs that aren’t useful in order to change them.
- Becoming aware of self-fulfilling prophecies – beliefs projected onto us by others, which we then subconsciously internalise, giving them life and a false sense of truth, moving away from our true selves
Middle Circle: Self determination theory; all humans have 3 basic psychological needs
- These needs are interconnected/inter-dependent, therefore they need to receive equal attention in order for an individual to feel fully self-supported.
- 1. Autonomy: engaging with others and things through choices that are in alignment with our values, interests, personal integrity.
- 2. Relatedness: feeling connected and accepted; sense of belonging through feeling cared for. Feeling respected and in turn able to behave respectfully towards others, from a place of authenticity.
- 3. Competence: stepping into one’s personal power; feeling empowered. Having the confidence to influence a situation, therefore developing willingness to take action or initiative. (ie. providing a safe space for a child to grow; not rushing them when learning to tie a shoelace).
Outer Circle: Emotional Intelligence
- Are there unpleasant emotions (driven by beliefs) that exist?
- These show up in behaviour patterns, and can be addressed through enquiry into the beliefs that fuel these emotions.
- The more we meet the emotional needs of others, the more positive reactions we will experience.
Qualities present in a flourishing family
- Each individual feels they can be themselves.
- Family members feel connected to each other.
- Family members easily identify unhelpful beliefs; these are highlighted in cases of extreme reactivity to a situation.
For further information on the FFM, or for personal coaching, www.manualaberger.com